Free attachment style quiz
Twenty questions, modelled on the two-dimension structure attachment researchers actually use. You get both of your scores, where you sit between the four styles, and what that looks like day to day (free, with no email and nothing held back).
No email required, and no partial result held back behind a signup.
What you get
Your two scores, plotted. Not just a label: the exact point, so you can see how close you are to the line.
How this is scored
Most attachment quizzes hand back a single word. This one shows every step that produced yours.
Ten statements measure attachment anxiety: how much the fear of being left runs in the background. Ten measure attachment avoidance: how much closeness registers as something to manage. The two are scored separately, each averaged to a number out of 100, and neither is collapsed into the other.
Example scores. The marker is the midpoint at 50, and the shaded half is the high zone.
The result quotes the statements you agreed with most strongly and says what each one indicates. Nothing generic, because it is assembled from what you actually said rather than from the label you landed in.
Every question belongs to a named dimension, and six of the twenty are reverse-scored: worded so that agreeing indicates less of the trait, not more. Without them, anyone could tap straight down the "agree" column and produce a meaningless extreme. Answering every question identically will not max out either dimension here.
Your two scores put a single point on the map, so you see the position rather than the box.
A style is not a separate thing being measured. It is which side of the midpoint each of your two scores falls on, and above 50 counts as high. If either score lands within 10 points of that midpoint, your result says so and names the style you are closest to, rather than announcing a category to someone sitting two points from its edge.
This quiz is modelled on the ECR-R's two-factor structure and uses its own questions. It is not the ECR-R itself, and it is not a licensed clinical administration of it. This is a self-assessment, not a clinical instrument, and nothing here is a diagnosis. Attachment styles describe patterns in close relationships — they aren't disorders, and they aren't fixed.
The questions worth answering before you take the quiz.
An attachment style is the pattern of expectations you carry into close relationships about whether people will be there when you need them. It forms early, through repeated experience of how your needs were responded to, and it shapes what you do when a relationship feels uncertain. Attachment styles are patterns, not personality types, and not diagnoses.
The four are secure, anxious (also called anxious-preoccupied), avoidant (also called dismissive-avoidant), and fearful-avoidant (also called disorganized). They aren't four separate things. They're the four combinations of two underlying dimensions: how much you fear being left, and how much closeness feels like something to manage. That two-dimension structure comes from Bartholomew and Horowitz's 1991 work and is what this quiz measures.
An online quiz can give you a genuinely useful reading of your own patterns, but it cannot do what a clinical assessment does. It depends entirely on how honestly you answer and on your own self-awareness in the moment, and a bad week can move your result. Treat it as a well-structured mirror rather than a verdict: useful for recognising a pattern, not for diagnosing anything.
Yes. Attachment styles shift with experience, and "earned security" is a well-documented outcome: people who didn't start secure and became so, usually through a long relationship that consistently disproved the old expectation, or through therapy. Change is real but slow, and it happens through repetition rather than insight alone.
Anxious attachment means you want closeness but can't quite trust that it will stay, so part of your attention stays on monitoring the relationship. It can change, and it tends to respond faster than the other insecure patterns, because it updates on evidence: consistent, unremarkable, repeated evidence that the connection holds when you don't manage it.
Yes. Clinginess describes a behaviour, anxious attachment describes what drives it. What looks like clinginess from the outside is, from the inside, a threat-detection system calibrated to notice distance early, because at some point noticing early was the correct strategy. Naming the mechanism rather than the behaviour is what makes it possible to do something about.
Healthy independence is being able to depend on someone and choosing not to right now; avoidant attachment is not really having the option. The test isn't whether you enjoy your own company or handle things well alone. It's whether you can let someone in when it would genuinely help, or whether something closes instead.
Yes, and the anxious-avoidant pairing is the one that most often needs deliberate effort to do it. The difficulty is structural: under stress one person's instinct is to close distance and the other's is to open it, so each person's natural move confirms the other's worst reading. It's workable, but usually only when both people act against their reflex at the same time rather than waiting for the other to go first.
No. The quiz and the full result are free with no email address and no account, and there's no partial result held back behind a signup. Creating an account is only needed to talk with Nysa about what your result means.
No. This quiz is modelled on the ECR-R's structure but uses its own questions. It follows the same two-factor design established by Brennan, Clark and Shaver in 1998 and revised by Fraley, Waller and Brennan in 2000: ten items per dimension, mixing forward and reverse-scored statements. It is not the ECR-R itself and is not a licensed clinical administration of it.
Nothing to sign up for, and the whole result at the end.